{"id":52489,"date":"2021-08-13T04:00:00","date_gmt":"2021-08-13T04:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/?p=52489"},"modified":"2026-03-31T17:28:26","modified_gmt":"2026-03-31T17:28:26","slug":"how-to-change-your-habits-with-mindfulness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mindful.org\/how-to-change-your-habits-with-mindfulness\/","title":"How to Change Your Habits with Mindfulness","content":{"rendered":"

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Ever wonder how you developed a habit of buying tools or kitchen gadgets you don\u2019t need? Why do you check your phone yet again when you just checked it 15 minutes ago? Or root around in the kitchen late at night, not really hungry but just wanting something?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
No mystery. It\u2019s simply how our brains work. We crave. We get. We remember. We crave again. It\u2019s the craving cycle. If we can understand it, we have a better chance of catching it in the act, and taking steps to make more considered choices.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Summary<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Mindfulness helps unravel automatic habits by fostering awareness and choice. Aligned with Mindful\u2019s mission, this article offers accessible, science-backed, and compassionate strategies to transform habits with curiosity and kindness in a secular, inclusive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Understanding Habits<\/strong>: Habits form through a loop of trigger (e.g., stress), behavior (e.g., snacking), and reward (e.g., relief), reinforced by repetition. Common types include wanting (craving), distraction (avoiding feelings), resistance (fighting discomfort), and doing (constant busyness).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Why Mindfulness Helps<\/strong>: Mindfulness interrupts autopilot by observing thoughts, emotions, and sensations without reaction, allowing conscious choices over habitual responses. It weakens unhelpful neural pathways and fosters healthier ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Key Strategies<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Identify Habit Loops<\/strong>: Notice triggers, behaviors, and rewards (e.g., stress \u2192 smoking \u2192 relief) to understand their mechanics.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Practice Awareness<\/strong>: Pause during urges, observe bodily sensations and emotions with kindness, and choose not to act habitually.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Address Basic Needs<\/strong>:\n
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Hunger<\/strong>: Eat mindfully to meet physical needs, not emotional cravings.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Anger\/Anxiety<\/strong>: Use slow breaths to calm fight-or-flight responses.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Loneliness<\/strong>: Share goals with others to build supportive connections.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Fatigue<\/strong>: Prioritize consistent sleep to bolster willpower.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Challenge Negative Thoughts<\/strong>: Recognize the \u201c7 Drivers of Old Habits\u201d (e.g., autopilot, avoiding discomfort) and replace them with positive narratives focused on growth.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
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Meditation<\/strong>: Sit for 10-20 minutes daily, focusing on breath to build awareness.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Gratitude<\/strong>: Reflect on three things you\u2019re grateful for daily to reinforce positive emotions.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Compassion<\/strong>: Shift to kindness at cues like leaving home, wishing others well.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Break Autopilot<\/strong>: Try new routes, foods, or conversations to refresh perspective.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
Practice Tip<\/strong>: When a habit arises, pause, breathe, and observe sensations and emotions without acting, noting how they shift to weaken the habit\u2019s grip.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This guide empowers everyone to reshape habits with mindful curiosity, fostering lasting change and well-being through a science-backed, approachable approach.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/a>\n\n\n
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What Are Habits? <\/h2>\n\n\n
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Habits are behaviors that become automatic because they have been performed frequently in the past. This repetition or automaticity creates a mental association between a situation and action or behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What is a Habit Loop?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Habits are formed and strengthened as we journey through a continuous loop seeking to satisfy our urges. Habit loops have a pretty simple and consistent formula: there\u2019s a trigger; there\u2019s an accompanying behavior; and there\u2019s a result or reward. Mindful awareness<\/a> is a form of curiosity that can act like a wedge to break the habit loop at various points and open up the opportunity for fresh choices.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For example, let\u2019s look at habits that get formed around smoking cigarettes: There could be stress<\/a> (trigger) that moves someone to go outside for a cigarette (behavior); and then, for a brief time, that initial stress is reduced (reward). Our brains simply recognize that a particular behavior\u2014in this case, smoking\u2014alleviates, however briefly, the feeling that the initial trigger sparks in us. So with that reward of lowered stress, the brain says, essentially: go do that behavior again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The trouble is, smoking a cigarette does not fix the root of the problem. That smoker still has to go back in to face an unruly classroom, an angry boss, or a looming deadline. What does get reinforced is the behavior\u2014and all it takes is that little bit of stress relief to keep us going back to the perceived stress reliever, in this case, the cigarette.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We can learn to raise our awareness of our own habit loops and get more adept at observing their mechanics. It\u2019s helpful to think in terms of gears: Being in habit mode is like being on autopilot\u2014we go through our day, habitually reacting to whatever stimuli we encounter. First gear is recognizing what our habits are. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
How Does a Habit Form?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
1. Our brain takes in data through our five senses or a thought.<\/strong> For example, you look at a selfie you took at the Eiffel Tower.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
2. Based on similar experiences\u2014and because we see the world through glasses we\u2019ve manufactured\u2014our brain interprets this as pleasant or unpleasant.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n
3. If pleasant, our brain gets an itch or an urge<\/strong>: \u201cGet me some more of that!\u201d If it’s unpleasant, our brain says, \u201cGet this away from me!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
4. We do something to make the good stick around, or to make the bad go away.<\/strong> For example, we post the picture on Facebook, and we get a bunch of Likes and comments about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
5. If our behavior was successful, our brain lays down a memory so it will remember to do that again in the future.<\/strong> Our brain says, \u201cThat was great. Don\u2019t forget to take more pictures and post them when you\u2019re on exotic trips!\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n
6. This new memory feeds back to Step 2 to inform how we view the world<\/strong>\u2014by solidifying how we saw it previously, or if there is new information, by updating: tweaking the prescription for our mental glasses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Each time we go through this, neural circuits that associate the experience with pleasant<\/em> or unpleasant<\/em> strengthen. This reward-based learning process is called positive and negative reinforcement and another example goes like this: We see some food that looks good, our brain says, \u201cCalories! Survival!\u201d We eat the food: We taste it, it tastes good. Especially with sugar, our bodies send the signal to our brain that says: \u201cRemember what you\u2019re eating and where you found it.\u201d We lay down this context-dependent memory and learn to repeat the process next time: see food, eat food, feel good. Repeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Trigger, behavior, reward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Simple, right? Well, after a while our creative brains say, \u201cYou know what? You can use this for more than just remembering where food is. Next time you feel bad, why don\u2019t you try eating something good so you\u2019ll feel better?\u201d We thank our brains for the great idea, try this, and quickly learn that if we eat chocolate or ice cream when we\u2019re mad or sad, we feel better. Same process, just a different trigger. Instead of a hunger signal coming from our stomach, this emotional signal\u2014feeling sad\u2014triggers the urge to eat. Each time we do this, we learn to repeat the process and it becomes a habit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Main Types of Habits<\/h4>\n\n\n\nThere are four main categories of habits<\/a>\u2014habits of wanting; habits of distraction; habits of resistance; and habits of doing\u2014that encompass many of the most common behaviors we seek to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1) Habits of Wanting<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Habits of wanting, craving, or addiction have an energy and feeling tone of moving toward something we desire. The body and mind focus in on the object, be it a drink, drugs, food, cigarettes, or sex, or any other object of desire, and our sense of well-being and happiness becomes tied to getting what we crave. Working mindfully with habits of wanting means opening fully to the feeling of wanting as it manifests\u2014in the body, the emotions, and the mind. If something triggers the urge, you can open to the sensations, feelings, and emotions and say \u201cyes\u201d to them and meet them with kindness, interest, and acceptance. If a thought arises, such as, I\u2019ll feel better if I have a smoke\/drink,<\/em> meet that thought with kindness. Choose to stay with what\u2019s alive in the body and the emotions without acting on it. When you learn to stay with the uncomfortable, unpleasant, or difficult feelings, you weaken the hold that the craving has over you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
2) Habits of Distraction<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
If you become aware that your attention has moved into an unhealthy habit of distraction, such as spacing out watching TV or surfing the Internet\u2014or if you catch yourself before moving into it\u2014bring close attention to your bodily experience and emotions. Stay with these sensations and feelings, then bring to mind the question: What would I have to experience if I didn\u2019t turn toward my habitual behavior? You may locate a feeling of tightness or numbness, perhaps a restless feeling. Meet the experience with a kind, curious, and accepting attention. See how, when met in this way, the feeling will come and go in its own time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
3) Habits of Resistance<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Habits of resisting, which manifest as frustration, annoyance, impatience, anger, judgment, and similar emotions and mind states, tend to have a different feeling tone. We feel as if we\u2019re defending ourselves, resisting a threat, or protecting ourselves from something that will harm us. Often we\u2019ll feel tightness, tension, contraction, agitation, heat, or other fight-or-flight sensations. The accompanying thoughts or beliefs in our mind may urge us to act in a way that will change this unpleasant situation or experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We can meet the habits of resistance by bringing our attention back to \u201cwhat am I experiencing right now?\u201d then meet what is here with a kind, curious, and accepting awareness. Bringing awareness to your breath helps to ease feelings of tightness and tension. Putting your hand on your heart can help temper thoughts of \u201cI need to do something.\u201d Sending a wish of peace and well-being to yourself, perhaps whispering \u201cmay I be peaceful,\u201d can create a sense of inner space within which the difficult experience and sensations can be held. Here, too, the practice is to bring a kind, curious, and accepting attitude to what is present\u2014choosing to stay with your direct experience rather than moving into habitual behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
4) Habits of Doing<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Finally, we can respond to habits of doing\u2014the feeling that we\u2019re always on our way somewhere, feeling that something bad will happen if we don\u2019t keep moving and getting things done\u2014with the same attitude of kind and accepting awareness. We begin by coming back to what we are feeling now, physically, emotionally, mentally. We think, things might be OK if I can just accomplish the next task.<\/em> We can feel frenetic, agitated, intense, or stressed out. Mindfulness invites us to experience all the sensations and emotions associated with that energy without identifying with it. Mindfulness practice helps prevent us from getting swept up in the story of \u201cI need to get this done or things will fall apart.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
These four kinds of habits are not mutually exclusive. When we feel a craving for something that we think will make us feel good, such as eating something sweet, we are often, at the same time, wanting to avoid an unpleasant feeling\u2014for example, tension, worry, tightness, or numbness. Similarly, when we disconnect from the present and spend large amounts of time online, there is often a feeling of discomfort, anxiety, or tension that we\u2019re subconsciously seeking to escape. With each of these habitual patterns, the remedy is the same: to return to our present-moment experience and meet it with interest, friendliness, and acceptance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The key to breaking old habits and forming new ones is building a strong foundation for your willpower to thrive on, and that means being mindful of our basic needs. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
4 Biological and Emotional Needs that Hinder Habit Change<\/h4>\n\n\n\n1) Hunger<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Any shortage of calories will short-circuit this hub of activity, making it difficult to activate your willpower. Check in with your body\u2019s hunger signals regularly, listening to what you need physically in terms of sustenance, not just what you want emotionally. Remember, not every meal has to be perfectly mindful (taking 15 minutes per raisin) but consider some informal ways of bringing mindfulness<\/a> into your eating habits so you become more aware of your diet and relationship to food.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
2) Anger and Anxiety<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
When we feel angry or anxious<\/a> our bodies can slip into fight-or-flight mode, where we start operating from the most primitive parts of the brain and nervous system. This is not where good long-term decisions are made. In this mode, some of the rational parts of our brain shut down, decreasing our ability to think and reason, or even consider the long-term consequences of our actions. This is when we start to react rather than respond. When you\u2019re feeling angry or anxious, and your emotions are running high, consider a few slow mindful breaths to quiet the nerves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
3) Loneliness<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Our social networks help us keep our commitments. When we tell other people about a commitment to change a habit, we are far more likely to follow through. And while introverts and extroverts have different optimal social setpoints, we all need to strike a balance between solitude and socializing. Consider what is the best balance for you, and share your goals only as widely as you feel comfortable. A side effect of sharing your goals is that you may find new ways to build relationships. Plus, we know that friendships are directly correlated with happiness, mental health<\/a>, physical health, even longevity. So, activate your social networks online and off to help you meet your goals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
4) Fatigue<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
When we\u2019re tired, whether it\u2019s from overworking or under-sleeping, our self-control and willpower slip away, an effect known as \u201cego-depletion.\u201d A poor night’s sleep<\/a> can even knock you down a few IQ points. The bad news is that research shows it is hard to make up for lost sleep. The good news is that some research suggests that consistent sleep, approximately the same bedtimes and waking times, might be as or more important than the total amount. So consider some basic healthy sleep habits as integral to your self-care<\/a>, as well as just giving yourself a chance to rest during your busy day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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How Mindfulness Works to Change Habits<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Mindfulness is the basic human ability to be fully present, aware of where we are and what we\u2019re doing, and not overly reactive or overwhelmed by what\u2019s going on around us. When mindfulness is present, we can see our thoughts, feelings, motivations, reactions, and responses with greater clarity and wisdom. We can pause before reacting and choose the appropriate response for the moment we are in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s easy to develop patterns and habits that take us away from our present experience into rumination, worry, and fear, which, in turn, lead to stress and suffering. It\u2019s easy to slip into overeating or over-drinking or other unhealthy behaviors without awareness, offering momentary relief but separating us from our deepest intentions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Untangling Ourselves From Habitual Thoughts<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Much of the stress, anxiety, and suffering in our lives comes from not bringing wise attention to our thoughts and beliefs, and treating them as true. We get swept up by the stories we tell ourselves. Our habit patterns play an important role in perpetuating thoughts and beliefs that lead to suffering. You might experience a loss or feel lonely or anxious and comfort yourself by eating something sweet, having a glass of wine, or zoning out in front of the TV for a few hours. That\u2019s fine, but if you obsessively repeat the mindless behavior in response to the same difficult emotion, a habit of responding in this way develops. Your mind associates the temporary release from unpleasant feelings with the new behavior and your thinking reinforces the behavior. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mindfulness provides skills and practices<\/a> to loosen our identification with thoughts, helping us see that the content of a thought is not inherently true. With attention, thoughts can be observed and met with wisdom rather than being acted out in habitual ways. For example, when a familiar stimulus triggers the thought, some ice cream would be nice now<\/em>, we can observe this as \u201cwanting\u201d or \u201cwanting thought,\u201d rather than automatically going to the freezer and scooping out a bowl of ice cream.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We can deepen our awareness of the emotions and bodily feelings that often underlie and spur our habits of thought and action. And where our thoughts have hardened into beliefs that perpetuate unhealthy habits, we can investigate these beliefs and untangle ourselves from them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A Mindfulness Practice to Notice a Habit<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Knowing how this works helps us be compassionate with ourselves. We start to understand how we tick and not take ourselves as seriously. Also, seeing how we reinforce habits can help us change them<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Consider a nagging habit<\/a>.<\/strong> Next time you act it out, see if you can trace each step. Can you see how the habit reinforces itself?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Note what\u2019s happening in your body.<\/strong> Can you notice the pleasant or unpleasant and not act on it? What does that urge to act feel like from moment to moment? <\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<\/a>\n\n\n
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How to Change a Habit for Good<\/h2>\n\n\n
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It\u2019s important to be aware of our existing habits and patterns of thinking before changing a habit for good. Our patterns of negative thinking are often based on old, well-practiced, automatic cognitive routines (often repetitive). They are motivated by the goal of escaping or avoiding distressing feelings or problematic life situations. These unhelpful routines persist because we remain in a cognitive mode characterized by a number of features. The cofounder of Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy<\/a> (MBCT) Zindel Segal calls these the seven drivers of old habits of thinking. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
7 Drivers of Old Habits of Thinking<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
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Living on \u201cautomatic pilot\u201d<\/strong> (rather than with awareness and conscious choice).<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Relating to experience through thought <\/strong>(rather than directly sensing).<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Dwelling on and in the past and future<\/strong> (rather than being fully in the present moment).<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Trying to avoid, escape, or get rid of unpleasant experience<\/strong> (rather than approach it with interest).<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Needing things to be different from how they are <\/strong>(rather than allowing them to be just as they already are).<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Seeing thoughts as true and real<\/strong> (rather than as mental events that may or may not correspond to reality).<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Treating yourself harshly and unkindly<\/strong> (rather than taking care of yourself with kindness and compassion).<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
Train Your Mind, Change Your Behavior<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Before we can change our behavior, we have to get to know our brains a bit better. We can map out an unpleasant experience in this four-step process: Situation; thought; feeling; behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Situation: <\/strong>I have a meeting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Thought: <\/strong>I don\u2019t like this meeting.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Feeling: <\/strong>Anger, frustration, anxiety.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Behavior: <\/strong>I go to the meeting, but feel agitated and checked out the whole time. I go to the vending machine right after the meeting and get a snack. Now, I have a habit.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
By recognizing our thoughts and how they impact our behavior, we can change our routine to something with a more long-term reward. We often remain in a cycle of unhealthy patterns because we believe that they are rewarding us. When we look closely, we see that many of our habits are not very rewarding. A walk is much more rewarding in the long-run than emotional eating. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Situation:<\/strong> I have a meeting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Thought:<\/strong> I don\u2019t like this meeting, but I know it is important for me to be there.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Feeling:<\/strong> Ease, contentment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Behavior: <\/strong>I go to the meeting with an attitude of receptivity. I also make a plan to go for a walk after the meeting as a reward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Daily Mindfulness Practices to Transform Habits<\/h2>\n\n\n
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Mindfulness practices provide an opportunity to recognize those pesky thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors that creep up during personal and professional trials and help to mediate the effects. Recent research published in April 2016 examined the efficacy of mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT) in a study of 1258 patients with recurrent depressive symptoms. Results found that MBCT treatment is highly effective in preventing recurrent depression and curbing ongoing depressive symptoms. This is relevant news for everyone who finds themselves feeling trapped by self-defeating thoughts and behaviors.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
5 Mindfulness-Based Tips and Practices to Curb Self-Defeating Habits<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
1) Inquire and Identify Repetitive Thoughts and Behaviors<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Pay keen attention to the present moment to recognize and acknowledge any negative self-narratives, defeating attitudes, or repetitive behavioral patterns. Challenge your negative self-talk. Don\u2019t identify with it or become it. Thoughts are not facts, they can always be changed. The same holds true for attitudes and behaviors. You are not defined by your behaviors. You have the power to change your actions at any time. Choose to empower yourself with clear decisions and commitment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Many of us are held back by our lack of wherewithal and clear stance when it comes to habit change. While trying to change exacerbates willpower and undermines motivation because of divided efforts to both maintain the current status quo and reach for a new one, committing to change sets free new resources and activates non-linear transformational processes because we have fully released our past modus operandi and are embracing a new way of being altogether. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Try This Practice for Committing to Change:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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Write down one habit change you want to make<\/strong> and are willing to fully commit to. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
Then call up and meet with three people you love and respect<\/strong> and tell them that you are unconditionally and fully committing to the change you are declaring. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
Repeat your commitment out loud at least three times<\/strong> while looking into your friends\u2019 eyes and shaking their hand with confidence. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
Observe how your nervous system responds<\/strong> to the experience and commitment you are making. Let the commitment be total with no back door. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
Examine the effect on your life.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
2) Break Through Self-Centered Thinking<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Most suffering stems from problems that are associated with a limited perception of self, a perception that holds the self as separate from the rest of the world and that generally is occupied with its survival or reification. When we break through self-centered thinking and take a fresh look at problems or situations as a whole, without personal attachment to a single viewpoint or limiting self-associations, we can begin to see solutions more clearly, without the emotional prejudice that can distort or fixate a problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Try This Simple Practice to Get Out of Self-Centered Thinking:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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Imagine for a moment your friend is the one going through the crisis<\/strong>, not yourself. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
Imagine listening to your friend explain the problem<\/strong>, and then imagine yourself giving feedback and offering helpful solutions. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
You are now problem solving from a caring, altruistic, and unbiased perspective<\/strong>, and more likely to provide helpful insights and answers to the dilemma. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
What would your advice be to your friend in a similar situation<\/strong>, what perspectives or solutions would you offer or propose?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
3) Maintain Focus on Your Goals<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Focusing on your goals will help give perspective on the situation at hand and <\/em>aid in altering whatever negative self-talk presents itself. A study examining over 2,000 participants<\/a> stressed that achievement goals strongly influence positive versus negative self-talk. Goals keep us focused and can emphasize ongoing improvement over perfection<\/a>. Termed \u201cmastery goals,\u201d such improvement-focused goals release performance angst and stimulate motivation for personal growth. Remind yourself frequently of your mastery goals to reinforce positive traits that will mature toward your ideal outcomes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
4) Invite New Thought Narratives Into Your Life<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Begin to replace the negative self-talk, attitudes, and behavior patterns with empowering, positive, and learning-focused narratives instead. While new thought narratives might feel inauthentic to the more limited and conditioned self-concept at first, they eventually form the ground of effective behavior change and emotional maturity. As you begin the process of taking responsibility for your own mental and emotional conditioning, you are becoming the person you want to be, not the one you are constantly struggling with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Try This Reflection Exercise to Evaluate Your Internal Narratives:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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Consider your current repetitive negative thoughts.<\/strong> Compare them to small children sitting on a school bus. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
Acknowledge their disempowering and sabotaging comments<\/strong>, attitudes, and dispositions. Welcome them onto the bus ride, but be sure to not let them behind the wheel, ever. Kids don\u2019t drive school busses well. Be kind, be compassionate, but be firm.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Take a deep breath in while connecting to a positive skill or disposition you possess<\/strong>. You could also focus on a learning outcome you desire. Keep breathing while you let that skill or disposition emerge. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
Ask yourself, \u201cif I let this more positive skill or disposition guide my life, what will it have me do?\u201d<\/strong> Repeat the process until clarity about your next steps arises.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
5) Bring Greater Feeling Into New Thought Narratives<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Learn how to enjoy and celebrate a newly cultivated behavior or thought to make it stick through positive reinforcement of pleasurable emotions. Research<\/a> from a study published in the Journal of Applied Behavioral Science <\/em>asserts that employees who cultivate a positive attitude tend to engage in positive behavioral change with greater ease than employees who have a more negative psychological mindset. This is not to say that a bright smile is always appropriate, but a kind and joyful internal disposition can go a long way even during trying times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The next time you feel yourself getting bogged down by your negative thought-narratives or self-defeating habits, follow these simple tips to navigate yourself out of routine every time. And remember: you don\u2019t have to be<\/em> your thoughts, attitudes, or habits. You are not your behavior. You always possess the capacity to change your mindset to navigate yourself clearly out of adversity. This inherent freedom comes at no cost. Mindfulness can provide you with the tools you need to reprogram your conditioning, it takes some work, but the rewards are priceless.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A Mindfulness Practice to Cultivate Awareness of Habits<\/h4>\n\n\n\n\n
Bring awareness to the habit that you want to change<\/strong> and think about the situations or conditions that trigger the habit. Are there actions you can take to avoid acting out the habit? What might be an alternative, healthier choice? For example, if you frequently snack on sweets when you\u2019re feeling anxious, uncertain, confused, or lonely, ensure that you don\u2019t have sweets in the house. Purchase healthier foods, such as nuts or fruit, to be on hand when a wish to have a snack arises.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
When you feel an urge, work with the trigger or craving to act in a habitual way<\/strong>: Pay attention to the context or environment in which the habit typically arises\u2014the place, time, people, sights, sounds, smells. When you first become aware of an urge to act, pause, take a few deep breaths and bring awareness to your internal experience. What is predominant? Is it a bodily feeling, such as tightness in the stomach or watering of the taste buds? Is it a strong emotion such as anxiety that you have responded to with comfort food in the past? Is it a combination of sensations, emotions and thoughts?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
Make a conscious choice to remain aware of your direct experience<\/strong>, rather than acting on the craving. Notice how the sensations, emotions, and thoughts begin, stay for a time, and pass when you meet them with kind attention. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
If you\u2019ve brought mindfulness to a stimulus or craving that has led in the past to an unhealthy habit but you\u2019ve resisted taking the habitual path, let yourself feel whatever comes up.<\/strong> Perhaps it\u2019s a feeling of relief or release, or gratitude, or optimism. Take these feelings in. Allow yourself to experience with appreciation any bodily sensations, emotions, or thoughts.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
If you acted upon the urge or stimulus in a habitual way, don\u2019t judge or criticize yourself. Rather, meet whatever feelings come up with kindness. If self-judgment, harsh criticism, or feelings of frustration or pessimism arise, meet them with friendliness. Revisit what matters most to you and how working to abandon this unhealthy or unwanted habit supports your deepest intentions. Remember you can begin again at any moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A 10-Minute Mindfulness Practice to Tame Bad Habits<\/h4>\n\n\n
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5 Mindfulness-Based Tips and Practices to Curb Self-Defeating Habits<\/h4>\n\n\n\n